Win the Whining War & Other Skirmishes
CONTENTS
Acknowledgment v
Introduction 1
STEP 1: GETTING STARTED 3
1. How to Use this Book 5
2. Changing Behavior: Attention is Powerful 9
3. Sorting Behaviors: The First Step to Change 15
STEP 2: INCREASING BEHAVIORS YOU LIKE 21
4. How to Praise: Using the Elements 23
5. When to Praise 31
6. Making Praise a Habit 37
7. Making a Big Task Manageable 41
8. Finding More to Praise 47
STEP 3: DECREASING BEHAVIORS YOU DISLIKE 51
9. How to Ignore: Using the Elements 53
10. When to Ignore 61
11. When Ignoring Seems Impossible 65
12. Making Ignoring a Habit 75
13. Inspiring Cooperation with Two or More Children 81
STEP 4: INSPIRING COOPERATION 87
14. Offering a Choice 89
15. Announcements 93
16. The When/Then Deal 97
17. Better Behavior Chart 101
STEP 5: SETTING LIMITS 113
18. Using the Tools You Know 115
19. Commands 123
20. The Broken Record Technique 129
21. Warnings and Consequences 133
22. Time-out 139
23. Solving Problems with a Family Meeting 147
24. Setting Limits in Public 153
Wrap-up 161
Trouble Shooting Guide 163
Battle Plans 165
A Final Word 193
Index 195 |